The IPR valve is driven with a 400Hz square wave that has a weak falling edge. You can see it depicted here:
To bench test it, you could feed a function generator with adjustable duty cycle into a transistor or MOSFET buffer or audio amplifier to get adequate current. I have never done this so I can't say for sure what physical motion you will observe from the IPR valve. ...but you will be driving it in the manner to which it is accustomed. Typically, they are tested in the truck.
If you want to instead test the signal at the IPR valve connector - and given the fact that you don't have an oscilloscope - you could feed the signal through a resistor and into your meter with a capacitor across the leads and see if the measured DC voltage roughly changes according to IPR%. If the voltage bounces around, choose a bigger cap.
If your meter has a frequency setting, confirming that you see 400Hz from the signal wire to ground would provide you with some extra measure of confidence.
Regarding wire colors... some pigtails have seemingly random colors and others have the same colors. That was my main thought. My being colorblind means that I often have to rely on diagrams an actual pin positions. I certainly can appreciate (and envy) those who have no such issue.
Attached is Pinpoint Test R for testing the IPR valve.
I'm not saying that it is an electrical problem. I'm not saying that it isn't, either. What I am saying is that concluding that the IPR valve is being provided a good signal without any verification whatsoever is not a good plan. Again... if it passes an airtest, the problem is likely electrical. If the valve is getting a good signal, the problem is likely mechanical. Until more information is available, that is the only thing that I would be willing to say with certainty.
Hope this helps.
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Edited to add...
It's worth noting that the IPR valve is supplied VPWR and the IPR signal. So... if you are measuring with an o-scope or meter, you would be better to measure the signal line referenced to ground.