@C_Karl : Hey I feel your pain. When we want more power and better operational capabilities we get what we ask for. Now think of the GOV getting into the regulations it only adds more potential systems that can fail.
In the end your older trucks compared to the 2016 are the modern equivalent to digging a 10' deep, 100' long trench with a shovel compared to using a Cat 352.
Crunch the numbers is a great way to compare the pluses and minuses. Way back in 2000 I did just that with my '99 F350 V10, compared to my neighbors '00 7.3L. Seems as what I saved in the initial costs I ended spending in fuel. Sure I saved the cost of the diesel motor up front but over time those savings were spent in fuel.
The problem is when the fuel costs shift one way or the other. Maintenance costs will generally stay pretty steady over time. Sure prices change for filters and oil, but they generally don't swing 200% in a year. Right now I spend $80 for oil, and oil filters. If that grew to $240 and stayed there I'd rethink my vehicle choices. Right now I tend to spend $80 in fuel per fill-up. If that goes over $200, I'd drive less...LOL
Since you want to use numbers to help make a decision I use Fuelly to track fuel numbers. Since new my trend is $.14 per mile in fuel costs. That's just fuel.
In oil and oil filters @$80 per 7,500 miles that should be $.01 per mile driven. OEM fuel filters run me $60 a set every 7,500 that should be $.008 per mile.
I'll leave it there for now since oil, oil filters, fuel, and fuel filters tend to be the most frequent maintenance items for most all vehicles. If we wanted to get ALL the numbers down on paper we would need to start a Excel sheet....LOL