It sounds like you have a ECT sensor going bad (way too low of a reading for coolant temps while operating) OR a bad thermostat that is sticking open. The tow/haul had less impact on your temps than dropping off the trailer. Without that extra weight, your engine didn't have to work as hard and that's why you had more normal temps. Your oil temps were getting pretty warm at 246* (253*F is where it start to defuel), so you might consider performing the delta test to see if your oil cooler is starting to clog.