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Old 10-10-2012, 06:21 PM
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wedding picture dilemma

Im getting married December 1st, so obviously stuff is getting talked about more and more and I cant always get out in time.
My fiance wants to have a picture that includes; mother, father,sister and herself. He parents have been devorced since '98 and dont speak to eachother. Her mother is remarried and her father has a GF.
The dilemma is her mother said whatever ill do what you want. He father had the balls to tell her that he didnt want to do it. He justified it with were not a family anymore and havent been for almost 15 years. I sided with her father which has kinda got me in the dog house.

Is it just me and him that feel this is an inapropirate picture? Or are the two of us reasonable with not wanting this picture?
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My "sperm donor" left the picture when I was 11. If he would have shown up at my wedding there is no way in hell I would have wanted him in a picture. My family picture at my wedding is my Mom, Step Dad(who has been real dad), little bro, and little sis.
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Both of her parents are in her life and always have been. Her parents got devorced because they dont get along. I just dont see a point on forcing them to be in a photo together.
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No reason to IMHO.
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Take a few photos with dad, then a few with mom. Problem solved. Memories made without a fuss.


What would I be doing right now if I didn't have an iPhone?
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^^^Agree....
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Take a few photos with dad, then a few with mom. Problem solved. Memories made without a fuss.


What would I be doing right now if I didn't have an iPhone?
Thats what I told her to do but she wants a "family" photo when there not a family anymore. Glad to know that other people agree with me. She thinks her dad and I are the only people that think like this.

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There just pictures. I don't see why women throw such fits about them.
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I understand your fiance's side of it. Regardless of where they are in their lives, they are still her parents. And the wedding is HER day. I get all of that.

The issue is, even though they are her parents, they have the right to decide for themselves what happens. If her father is not comfortable with Plan A (Family pic) then Plan B (as above, separate parental photos) should be looked at. The last thing I believe she would want is for her parents to start going off on each other on HER day. HER wedding day should be full of pleasant memories, not ones that would taint the excitement of marrying you.

My 2 cents.
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Just went through this as well, parents divorced because they married young, mom cheated on dad, denied it, blah blah. Anyways, both are remarried, no kids from new marriages, dont talk or anything, but are cordial at family events when both sides are there etc.

Wedding day IS your soon to be wife's day, no one elses. Sorry to say, you have d*ck to say, just do what she wants. Trust me on this, been married just over 30 days, and I wouldn't have tried to go against anything she wanted because it would end like yours sounds to have.

If the dad wants to be an A** about it, then let her deal with it, and tell her you support her decision and will help in every way to make it happen. Thats what I did and her parents took the pictures together, just on opposite sides of her and I, etc.

Worked out fine and she was happy. Sounds like this guy is a DB anyways, its HER day, not his.
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