How do you know she is the one??

[SmokeyAussie]

this may be a stupid question but seeing that i dont talk to my dad nor want anything to do with him, i gotta rely on some of the forum guys to help me through this, yes i am a young bloke only 24.

Been with the girlfriend for about 3 years now, lived in two different countries with her, and about to up and move back to Canada from Australia in January 2012. my question is with marriage in general, how do you know she is the one...is it meant to hit you like a frieght train, is it something that just tugs ever so slightly but you know is there....or is all that rubbish and its just pure faith??

thanks guys

[jse51599]

Originally Posted by SmokeyAussie

this may be a stupid question but seeing that i dont talk to my dad nor want anything to do with him, i gotta rely on some of the forum guys to help me through this, yes i am a young bloke only 24.

Been with the girlfriend for about 3 years now, lived in two different countries with her, and about to up and move back to Canada from Australia in January 2012. my question is with marriage in general, how do you know she is the one...is it meant to hit you like a frieght train, is it something that just tugs ever so slightly but you know is there....or is all that rubbish and its just pure faith??

thanks guys

It's actually a wing and a prayer..... Well, three years and two different countries should tell you something as far as whether or not she's the one. If she'll follow you that far, then I'm guessing you already have your answer.

[sargar]

For me it was a comfort thing. It was just easy being around each other. Other girls I dated seemed to be too high maintenance. I suspect it will be different for everyone. We dated for a few years, then lived together for a few years. Got married in '96 and are still together today. Good luck.

[azkcr]

I just proposed Friday
It was our 6year anniversary. I'm 22. She goes to Univ of Arkansas. And I go to TX aTm.

There's no sure-fire "way to know". But I'll tell you how I knew.
For me, I know she's "the one" because I love her enough to dedicate everything I can for her. I would give/sacrifice anything for her and she would do the same for me.
I love being around her and anytime I'm not, I think about the next time I will be.

If you ask yourself "will I regret this in 10years?", and can't answer with a straightforward HELL NO I WON'T.
Then IMO, I wouldn't ask her (yet).

[mcflan]

Everyone is different. My contradicts itself. If she went that far, that says something. But if you have to ask the question you're asking after all of that then maybe she isn't? You can make anything work as long as you guys hit it off and trust each other. Just like Ben said above..He hits on some key stuff.

[SmokeyAussie]

thanks guys really does help, really appreciate all the answers. gives me something to work with.

[strokepower]

It's simple.. When I first started dating my fiancé (gettin hitched oct 29... ) we were ridin in my truck and a cummins decided to play around with me... She looked at me and said "are you going to do do something about that or do I need to drive?"

I knew she was the one that day....



Just kidding on that... I believe in the old saying "when you know.. You know" I think you already have your answer.. 99% of the time the gut won't lie. Good luck with the decision.



On another note... I also liked to sing "love your love the most" like this...

"Hell yes I love you girl but I want you to know.. Honey I love my truck... The most" that will get them
Fired up haha...

[Circle H Ranch]

My wife accepts me for who I am and I take her the same way. I don't want to change her and she doesn't want to change me. Twenty years and counting. Good luck.

[luca_brasi]

When you're 24, none of them are 'the one'. Seriously, dude, don't even think about marriage right now, unless you want to get divorced in three years.

When you're 34, she is the one who makes you comfortable with, offers and accepts compromise on every issue for discussion, and combines and shares both of your workloads.

[azkcr]

^^^^^

Terrible advice.