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In a pickle
Need some help guys. The fiance and I are in a major disagreement, and looking to see how far off I am. (possible relationship ending)
She wants baby #2, I don't. When we first started dating way back we had both stated we wanted 2 kids. But below is my reasoning for not wanting a 2nd. (and a lil background)
Here's my reasons why I don't want to try for baby #2.
We've been off and on for 10 years now. We now have a happy 2 y/o daughter, but she almost wasn't here. the fiance has had 11 miscarriages, and her pregnancy with my daughter wasn't the best. She was put on bed rest, and went in for a checkup every week. Every week she was admitted for monitoring, and released. My daughter was born 6 weeks early, and she spent a week in NICU. Every movie/show I've ever watched when the baby cries when it comes out. Well, I didn't get that. My daughter came out blue, not breathing, and got put on a table. I got to watch them work on my daughter for several minutes before she let out a cry, or anything. That hurt to see. She was blocked from seeing any of this.
Now she thinks I'm an a-hole, that I lied to her, and that I'm punishing her by not wanting to try for a second baby. as far as I'm concerned, with our track record, it's dangerous to try for another. we could lose the baby again, or worse, lose her. I've told her all this MANY times, but she still insists that she wants another one. To the point that she wanted to know last night what the chances are that we will have another one. That she wanted to know before we got married, so that she could work it out with her therapist and see if she can go on without baby number 2, or if she had to leave.
I don't see how I am being unreasonable. I need to know if and where I am wrong. Please send me your thoughts. And no, i don't want to hear any "replace her" Lines.
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