10-28-2009, 07:17 AM
ok first i want everyone to know that i LOVE my wife more than anything!!!
ok this is kinda a rant/looking for advice....
ok let me set the scene... My wife and i met while i was training horses and showing all over the country, she had her horses with another trainer that also went to majority of the shows that we went to. She was going thru a divorce (a BAD one) well long story short we started dating and ended up gettin married in august of 08. we met and started dating in 05.
now lets jump forward to current times... i am no longer training horses for a living as i tore up my legs pretty bad in a horse accident and the economy took a dive. She is a school teacher the whole time since i met her and still currently is. I came into the relationship with no debt and she had alot from the divorce and buying out the rest of the partners in the company. I am a state highway inspector and make pretty dang good money, but i also put in at least 13 hour days in and sometimes i dont get a day off for months on end.
Now what i am upset about and dont know what to do or maybe im just being retarded... my wife takes care of all the bills and handles all the money as she has more time to do it as i am always working. she is still into the horses... not as active as she was when we met but is still active in them. i love that she enjoyes it and i encurage her to go to shows and have fun. i never say she cant do anything as she controls the money and she is smart enough to know what we can afford and can not afford. but here is my problem, as we just got in a huge fight about this morning when i was leaving for work... i asked her if i i was able to get some money out of savings for some parts for the truck. now the truck is my ONLY hobby i have as i dont have time for anything else. well she gets all upset and says that i cant have any money becasue i dont need to modify the truck, its fine the way it is... she kept on going about how i waste money and bla bla bla... (you all know how it goes).
i wouldnt have a problem with her saying that if it were true... but i dont spend money on ****!!!! i have a company truck with a company fuel card... i pack my own lunches... i can make $20 last 2 weeks. i dont spend anything but here i am forking out close to $3K per month on the horses just to sit in the barn, the trailer to sit in the drive way. plus im forking out money to pay for my 2000 that is doing work for the company.... plus anytime she wants to do anything we go do it with no questions asked from my part or her part... anytime i want to do something all i hear is *****ing and complaining out we have no money... well i know she makes it worse then what it is because we have enough in the savings to cover all the bills for a year with some to spare.
plus when i wanted to get some money i already have most of it paid back. i got TONS of parts i have to sell from tractors to a complete PSD parts truck i got. i have tons of performance parts to get rid of. i was plannin to pay for all of my parts i wanted with the sale of my extra parts but i came accross a deal that i cant pass up (it will end up saving me about 10 grand in parts if i buy the whole setup rather than buy parts seperatly).
i dont know if any of this makes scence but ohhh well, just want to find out what your opinions are...
do i have the right to feel upset???