I'm a little different than most of the responders so far. I'm 52, been married almost 30 years.
I was a full time cop most of that time while also serving in the military reserves. I have run my own business as well for the last 18 years and currently work with a rescue group on the side and do some contracting for the gov't.
My point is, I'm gone or otherwise busy, a LOT!
Between the military, law enforcement, and the demands of my business and the rescue group, I would sometimes seldom see home for stretches at a time.
My lady knew the demands of my career choices from the git go!
She also came up in a military family and knew the demands of government service.
When I first entered law enforcement, I almost joined the Highway Patrol. I was told that my 1st duty assignment would be Miami (which I was happy about), but wondered how it would effect our relationship?
Both of us were in Tampa, as was all of our family at the time..
When I told her, the first thing out of her mouth
was, ok, I'll find something to do down there.
You see, she was an RN right out of school with her 1st job in Tampa (less than a year on), and we weren't even married yet! She was ready to pick up and move with me despite all that. Now that's dedication! That's true love and committment!
There have been a few times over 30 years that she's complained about the time I'm gone, but overall, she's stuck by me through thick and thin, good and bad (and there's damned sure been some bad over the years!)
I've also had the opportunity to observe many of my friends who had girlfriends just like yours, dependent, clingy, needy, demanding...all the traits you described.
Some of the guys gave in and gave up on thier career goals, took mundane jobs in the private sectror that guaranteed they'd be off on weekends and holidays, and home in the evening.
They bent to her every desire and demand...most of these lasted less than 5 years and the beotch was history!!
I don't think ANY
of them lasted long term.
Relationships are built on give and take. We'd all like to have perfect lives, but the real world doesn't work that way.
YOu're apparently a hard working young man and someone who has goals in life. You need someone who shares those goals and is supportive, not "needy."
We need people like you and your father to ensure the well being of this country
Farmers have always been the backbone of our nation
Without you, and people like you and your dad, we can not remain the self sufficient country we are now.
Besides, a hard working man that's willing to sacrifice to take care of his family, should be worth his weight in GOLD to any woman
If she's not smart enough to see and understand that, or she's too selfish to give a little, then run like the wind and never look back my friend.
Let her go f**k someone elses life up.
As several have already said, there's someone out there that will appreciate you. You're young, be patient. True love WILL happen...when it's time
Take care and keep your goals in sight and remain true to yourself!