Now what do i do??

[deere4440]

Thanks guys, all of it was a really big help. I know i probably tried way to hard and spent way to much money on her over the course of a year. I never sacrifaced my job, but i did sacriface a lot of other stuff in my life, mainly friends. Cause she wanted to spend time with me on the weekends cause that is the only real free time i have. I do work sat in the morning during the not busy season, but now since harvest she came i work full day saturday, and i work on the farm on sunday. So i can't really see her on the weekends anymore.

Everything was going great until harvest showed up this year, she couldn't understand why i had to work so much. I told her i had to, my boss made me, and alot of farmers count on us to be there when there equipment breaks down. Someone has to come to there rescue!

That was the main reason she wanted it over, i kept asking what else there was for her to come to this decision. She said she had no other reason, just that.

Well i guess i can look on the bright side thought, my baby in the garage is going to get a little more attention now

[wriott]

keep your head high and everything will work out.... remember everything happens for a reason

[Dimitri]

Women, girls, what ever you want to call them, are useful in life. But they are all crazy "something or another". Everything has to be prefect for them, everything has to be acceptable to them, and everything has to go their way or they say they are going to leave you.

No women is worth the little mind games they do, no women is worth keeping after they play their games, and no women is worth it ESPECIALLY when they claim they are "sorry". If a girl says shes sorry its just another way to try and get what she wants out of the guy. Believe me when I say changing for a girl is the worst thing a man can do in his life.

Everyone repeat after me "They are not worth it, they are all lying, cheating, mind game playing crazy people" Say it 10 times then say it another 10 times till you get it in your head so deep you don't need to think about it anymore to remember it.

Dimitri

[GoFastPadre]

Originally Posted by deere4440

Maybe some of you guys can help me out, my girlfriend broke up with me tonight because she said i was to busy and didn't pay enough attention to her. Ok here is what i do for a living, i still live at home, only 23. I work at a John Deere dealer that is about 45 min from my house, she lives about and hour and a few min from my house. But she lives in the next town to the one i work in. So you think that would be good enough? She also lives at home to, so it's not like i can stop by whenever i want.

But me and my dad farm, she also told me she didn't like that i spend so much time in the tractor working during the busy season like now, i should be with her and give my full attention to her!

Before we ever started dating i explained to her about this situation, she said that was fine and found it cool that i farmed and wanted to ride in the tractor with me. Well now she has completely turn around on what she said, and tells me she never said that at all.

So what am i suppoused to do, i still love her, i don't want to loose her but apparently she doesn't want me anymore? Do i let it go and be done with her, or do i try to change her mind? Thanks in advance

I know that you are hurting right now and I don't want to seem insinsitive, but this is best thing that could have happened. She has shown herself to be a liar and possesive to boot. Move on with life and be patient, God will send the right girl your way. Keep looking up Bud things will work out.

[RRonning1984]

It will never work with a girl that cant handle the way they are when you are dating. What is going to happen when you actually get busy?

[deere4440]

Originally Posted by RRonning1984

It will never work with a girl that cant handle the way they are when you are dating. What is going to happen when you actually get busy?

Well see that is the thing, this spring she was all ok with me during planting season. I even asked her a few times if she wanted to do something on the weekends, then her response would be "aren't you in the field, don't you need to do that first". So i thought she understood, and everything would be ok. Well this spring was kinda drug out a lot longer than normal cause of the rain we had this year, normally we are done by late May, well we didn't finish until mid to late June!

I knew it was bugging her but i tried to make it up to her as much as i could. I tried to take her camping, which she loves to do, but we never went cause she always said she was busy on the weekends. I would ask her what was she doing, she would always say "doing stuff for mom". Which i believed it, but after that we started to slow down on talking and slow down on seeing each other. I didn't want to end it, i told her that, but she kept bring up the farming issue and how i don't have time.

But you wanna know something weird, she was txting me last night for quite a while like nothing was wrong. Like we used to do a while ago?

[Hank]

Let her go. There's probably a girl out there that would be willing to jump in there and help out during the busy season so you can finish earlier. Keep looking for her. Bet she comes in and out of that JD dealership?

[SAR Pirate]

Originally Posted by deere4440

...but we never went cause she always said she was busy on the weekends. I would ask her what was she doing, she would always say "doing stuff for mom". Which i believed it, but after that we started to slow down on talking and slow down on seeing each other. I didn't want to end it, i told her that, but she kept bring up the farming issue and how i don't have time.

But you wanna know something weird, she was txting me last night for quite a while like nothing was wrong. Like we used to do a while ago?

Take a look at the bolded parts.

It seems it was ok not to see each other when it was convenient for her and when she was doing things for her family; however, it seems to be an issue when you are helping your family/.

Either she's a self centered as she can be (and that's a personality trait that generally won't change my friend ), or she's lying to you!

You mention that the two of you slowed down seeing each other and talking during the time that she was "doing things for her mom" and afterward.

Without being more specific about "what" she was doing, it seems more of a cover for I"m seeing someone else (I've there too my friend). At least she knew what you were doing and where you were doing it, when you couldn't spend time with her. And at least you tried to call her on occasion.

She on the other hand, gave vague and generalized information and didn't (apparently) make much effort to see you.

BTW, does she have a car? Friends with a car? Couldn't she come to at least visit you in the field, to say hi, bring a quick sandwich for lunch and spend a little quality time, even for a few minutes occasionally?

See, those are the things people who really want to see each other do to work around adversity

One final point.

Your last statement concerns me.

Is she possibly bi-polar?

Or, could her side gig have been derailed and she's coming back to safety?

I don't mean to cast dispersion on your lady my friend, but having lived through similar situations over the dating years, and seeing it with friends and family, these "keys" just throw up all sorts of RED FLAGS

Be careful with this one...

[SAR Pirate]

Originally Posted by Hank

Let her go. There's probably a girl out there that would be willing to jump in there and help out during the busy season so you can finish earlier. Keep looking for her. Bet she comes in and out of that JD dealership?

[Eric]

Originally Posted by Dimitri

Women, girls, what ever you want to call them, are useful in life. But they are all crazy "something or another". Everything has to be prefect for them, everything has to be acceptable to them, and everything has to go their way or they say they are going to leave you.

No women is worth the little mind games they do, no women is worth keeping after they play their games, and no women is worth it ESPECIALLY when they claim they are "sorry". If a girl says shes sorry its just another way to try and get what she wants out of the guy. Believe me when I say changing for a girl is the worst thing a man can do in his life.

Everyone repeat after me "They are not worth it, they are all lying, cheating, mind game playing crazy people" Say it 10 times then say it another 10 times till you get it in your head so deep you don't need to think about it anymore to remember it.

Dimitri

I'm gonna have to disagree with them all being like that. Alot are but not all

To the OP, hang in there, the right girl will come along when you least expect it