It just seems like no use.
I've tried talking things out, fighting things out, ignoring this, waiting things out, trying to make agreements, trying to change the routine/plan to make it work better for both of us...but the man and I just aren't sticking it out I guess.
He let me "own" his truck for 3 months when my parents sold the vehicle I was borrowing, he used to pick my son up for afternoons so I could have a break, he took me in when my parents threw my son and I out (yeah, I have kinda ****ty parents), he's been a father-figure for my son who got walked-out on by the real one. We've lived with him since May, done his laundry, cooked his dinner, picked his clothes off the floor, cleaned his truck, spent money on him nearly every weekend to get what he wants...
I got in a car accident a few months back and he wouldn't come pick me up, made a bunch of excuses (the car was totaled, btw.) He used to be so willing to help out with anything - fetch me a drink, just sit and talk to me or take us all for a drive, give the boy his bath, but now he just ignores us.
He gets up around 7 am, gets dressed, and leaves. He doesn't return until 7 pm some nights. I stopped cooking his dinner, since he was never home to eat. He doesn't work, he goes to school odd-hours and uses it as an excuse to not get any job. His parents pay for everything, including his truck and gas (which he drives around for hours every morning wasting, when they can't afford milk some weeks.)
I have limited daycare hours, but could work more if I had someone to watch my son in the am and take him to daycare (about an hour total.) I also have one night job once a week that I need a stay-at-home sitter for since it goes late. He used to LOVE watching the boy, but the last few weeks I've called out of work these days since he refuses to help out. It isn't like he doesn't want to deal with someone's kid - he has been aware of what a relationship with me means long before we were together and he has a melt-down over the boy every time I tell him it might be best if we both left. I think he actually loves the kid more than me.
We went to a stroker meet - stupid idea. He wanted us to go, talked about going as a family for months. I talked to the boy about it and got him all excited too. I dropped him off at the location that morning then went to get the kiddo (my mother had him the night before so I could work that night job.) On the way back to him, he calls me and asks me to go pick his friend up, who was totally out of the way and NOT into trucks whatsoever. (He was actually MY friend for many years first!) So, I picked him up to make the man happy, his day right? Well, the whole meet my poor son got completely ignored by his truck buddy. He just didn't want anything to do with us and didn't even tell anyone that we were with him. I snapped at one point and *****ed him out 'cause I just wanted 3 minutes to eat lunch that the boy did not want me to eat - I ended up throwing it out. I couldn't chase a 2 year old while spooning salad into my mouth.
He downright refuses to pick up his own underwear or wash his own clothes now. He won't put away his meds so that the boy can't eat them. He won't take 20 minutes off of the computer to watch the boy so that I can take a shower. He won't, he just won't do anything anymore. Whenever a problem arises and we talk it out, he simply tells me what I want to hear now, but never does it. He knows WHAT I want to hear in any situation and will happily hug and make up with more promises just to get me to back off and let him get laid for another week.
He is the total opposite of the man I fell in love with and was happy with for so long.
My son and I have nowhere to go but a shelter - there's no money after losing the daycare hours and one of my jobs. He knows this. He is also very well aware of the fact that I'm carrying his child.